I wanted to share this with you.  I love to pass on anything that inspires me.  And nothing inspires me more than the Power of Prayer.  This is by Dr. Joe Dispenza, from his newsletter.  This is part 1.  I’ll pass on part 2 when it’s published, or sign up for his newsletter.  Feel free to share any your thoughts, feelings or experiences in the comment section. I’d love to create a caring community.  Together we can change the world.


Prayer Changes Everything

People often ask me why their prayers seem to go unanswered. To answer this question, we first have to ask ourselves, what is a prayer? A prayer is a thought that possesses the quality of directed intention. It’s holding a specific outcome in our minds with the objective of connecting to a greater power for assistance. Because prayer and faith tend to go hand in hand, we next need to ask ourselves, what is faith? We could say that faith is believing in thought more than anything else—more than the current conditions in our present-personal reality or any challenges in our external environment. The intersection of faith and prayer probably needs to be addressed at this point. When used together to produce a specific outcome, we could say that when we get up from our prayer as if our desired outcome has already happened, we are in the right state of mind and body—in other words, we’re in a new state of being. Let’s take a step back for a moment and look at the process of prayer.

Let’s say that we see certain circumstances in our life, or someone else’s life, that seem to be undesirable. When we anticipate a familiar scenario, we’re able to forecast a predictable outcome. In fact, we begin to expect a future worst-case scenario in our mind, and as we do this, we can feel the negative emotions (emotions based in the hormones of stress) before the actual event occurs. Now we’re anticipating a future outcome based on a past experience, but it’s not the possible outcome that’s upsetting us. It’s the correlating emotions of fear, anxiety, frustration, anger, suffering, sadness, or pain that really make the biggest impression on us. At times like this, many of us turn to prayer.

For most people, prayer begins as a thought in our brain. That thought then creates a stream of thoughts, and because the brain is an anticipation machine, we can see a highly probable reality unfolding, so we begin to see a better alternative outcome in our mind. As we do this, we start to imagine a better future experience. Because our brains are wired to create, we can naturally do this. This is called an intention. Next, when we put ourselves in the scene of our prayer, we start to feel the emotions that correlate to the fruition of that prayer (the thought in our mind becomes the experience, and the end-product of that experience is an emotion). As a result, our brain and body start to live in the future—in the present moment. Humans can do this so well that we can feel the emotion of that reality ahead of the experience. This occurs because we automatically start to create scenes and images of what we may experience when our prayer comes to fruition.

The problem starts when we open our eyes and don’t immediately see our prayers answered. And so while we may initially live in the emotion of our prayer while we’re praying, when we come back to our senses and open our eyes, we see that our prayer has not yet materialized, or worse—appears to be unanswered. This is when we start to feel doubt, lack, and separation from that very thing we’re praying for. As a consequence, we try harder, pray harder, force, wish, beg, hope, and plead with God, source energy, or whatever you want to call the creative energy of all that is. We do this because that’s what separation creates. Our senses fool us into believing that we are separate from our creation. Now we’re not only separate from our creation, but we’re separate from the very intelligence with which we are attempting to connect.

While many people possess the intent of their prayer, many others miss the corresponding emotions that go with it. Once they have lost the feeling or emotion, they are back in lack, and each time they do this they are creating from a state of separation—instead of a state of connectedness, wholeness, love, and oneness. If thoughts are the language of the brain and feelings are the language of the body, and how we think and how we feel creates our state of being, it makes sense that mind and body are in opposition. The mind is holding the intent but the body is saying, “It’s not happening.”

So how do we change that? It requires us to really open our hearts and feel gratitude as if our prayer has already been answered. Why? Because gratitude is a state of receivership. We give thanks when we are receiving something or have already received it. When we do this properly and enough times, we start to feel the emotion of our future, and the more we feel that emotion, the more our body becomes conditioned to that feeling.

The result is that each time we get up from our prayer as if our prayer has already been answered—that is to say, in the feeling of the fruition of our prayer—the aftereffect is that we try, force, and want less because now we are in a new state of being. In a sense, we feel as if it has already happened.

What is happening in this process is that we are moving closer to wholeness, instead of lack or separation. Now we are no longer trying to predict the when, where, or how the answer to our prayer is going to happen, because we feel like it already has happened. This is how we make room for the unknown. Now a new possibility that we haven’t thought of can manifest in our reality. This is how we move from living in the Newtonian world of the predictable and the known to the quantum world of the unpredictable or the unknown.

In this work, we don’t pray to have our prayers answered; we get up as if they are already answered. The key to this skill is to maintain that state of being independent of the conditions in our external environment. To remain in this state independent of past habits and emotions stored in the body—which have been programmed to be the mind—and to maintain that new state of being independent of time, is to move beyond the illusion of what our senses are telling us and into in a whole new reality in our mind. In short, it’s not so much about saying that prayer as it is living the prayer.

Stay tuned for Part II where we’ll discuss what it means to surrendering to your prayer, let go, and trust.


I listened to an Abraham Hicks, on youtube.  “Stop overwhelment and self-sabotage”.  It was all about finding satisfaction.  I always take notes and I wrote this down….satisfaction is the absence of resistance, the key to everything I want.  That is my quest: satisfaction.

But it isn’t until you incorporate the words into your life and your heart that they come alive for you.  In every situation, in every moment in your life there are a myriad of satisfying and unsatisfying things going on around you.    Example: as I was getting ready for my shower, I noticed some mold on my shower wall (please don’t judge me). Almost simultaneously I noticed the beautiful breeze flowing in from my open window.

I had a choice in that moment.  I could have focused on the mold and how disgusted I was about it.  And the universe would have brought me more thoughts like it and that would have gathered momentum.  But instead, I choose the breeze and I reveled in the delicious feeling  on my skin.  And then I was prompted to rush right here and share this revelation with you.  Because it’s so simple isn’t it?  And once we’re aware of the simplicity of it all, of life, you will never be able to go back.  You will have expanded.  You will be more aware in every moment of the choice and perhaps, once today you will choose to ignore the unsatisfying aspects of any given moment and instead you will make a conscience decision to choose satisfying.  And tomorrow you might make the choice two times and after awhile you’ll begin to notice you’re looking for the satisfaction in life.  You’re beginning to enjoy life more.

Choose satisfaction and begin…..ATTRACTING MAGIC.

Pass it on

I’ve just returned home from taking my granddaughter to school.  I feel compelled to share with you our morning ritual.  The ritual I have conducted with each of my three grandchildren every morning of every day of their career in elementary school.

First:  we close our eyes and I have her take a deep breath pulling  God up into her body through her feet, her tummy, to the top of her head.  Then exhale.  Then she takes a deep breath and pulls God down from heaven and fills every cell of her body from the top of her heads to the tips of her toes. And exhale. Then she takes one last deep breath and pushes God ten feet all around her, in front, in back, to the right, the left, above and below.  I tell her to feel him surrounding her, hugging her, guiding her, and loving her.  One loud exhale and we’re done.

Second:  We do a few I Am statements.  I say I Am and she fills in the blank.

Third:  We say 3 times fast and loud:  Bender’s are leaders.

Fourth:  Who created you, I ask her.  God, she replies.  Who is with you at all times loving you, guiding you, streaming every good thing toward you.  And she replies, God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

Fifth:  How do we create our life, I ask.  Happy thoughts, she answers. I ask her to name one happy thought.

Sixth:  Two final statements.  I say,  I am going to change the world…..she says, by being me.  And tell her that God created her exactly how he wanted her to be and she doesn’t need to change one thing.  He loves her exactly as she is.  Finally, I say, everything is always…..working out for me, she answers.  And then I give her my blessing.  The favor of the Lord be with you.  A hedge of protection be around you.  And the joy of the spirit be within you.

Why do I do this?  Because our only real power lies in our connection with God. I know this so clearly.  And it’s my deepest desire for my grandchildren to grow up  living by this knowledge.  Witnessing the power in their own lives.  Will they fail?  Will they get knocked done, discouraged?  Heck yes.  But it’s my fervent prayer that the words we repeated over and over, morning after morning will come back to them and they’ll know that they have the power to rise up victorious through the power of God.

Isn’t it worth taking the time to get connected ourselves?  To live in our power.   Who will tell them these things?  Who will demonstrate the power of living a life connected to God, if it isn’t you? God leads us through many different avenues, holy books, church, youtube videos, sirius radio….dare I hope this blog.   So make it a top priority,  get connected, using every avenue you can find and start…..ATTRACTING MAGIC….for you and your family.

It’s all about the brain waves


I’m really excited to share with you something I learned the other day.  I signed up for on online intense workshop with Dr. Joe Dispenza.  I’m a huge fan of his books and videos.  he said something that made the puzzle pieces slip into place.  . He said, and I’m paraphrasing, that almost everyone lives in a state of stress, in the flight or fight mode.  When we’re in that state our brain waves move from alpha or low beta into high beta.  Our body reacts by sending blood rushing to our extremities, our only concern is survival. While in that state the parts of the brain send incoherent messages to the other parts of the brain and to the systems of the body.  This is not a time for learning or healing.  While in high beta the more we analyze the problem, the more we drive our brain further into high beta.

But here was the thing that really hit home with me.   He said: while our brain waves are in high beta,   we are physically incapable of looking at things rationally.  WHAT?  Physically incapable? Abraham Hicks says  It’s not possible to solve a problem from the vibration of the problem.  You must get into the vibration of the solution.  So how can I possibly do that, you ask?

MEDITATION. It lowers the brain waves to alpha.  While in alpha the brain waves slow.  The brain starts to send coherent signals to other parts of the brain and to the body.  We can think rationally.  We can see possibilities.

This crystallized when I dropped my granddaughter off to school and she started crying because she thought she was late.  She got herself worked up into a hysterical state.  Though I tried to remind her how much she was going to enjoy being with her best friend in class she wasn’t listening.  Then I heard Dr. Joe in my head.  She can’t hear you.  She’s in fight or flight.  Her brain waves are in high beta. So we stopped and did a quick meditation  in the car. After several minutes, her breathing calmed.  She became visibly calmer.  The short meditation had lowered her brain waves from high beta to alpha and she could think more clearly again.  She could once again see the joy and not the threat.

So now, I’m starting to analyze from what state of mind I am making my decisions, high beta… where I’m incapable of logical thought…or low beta or alpha, where all parts of my brain are firing and wiring together.    I hope you find this helpful, my friends.  Have a blessed day and begin….ATTRACTING MAGIC.





I had a revelation this morning.  School has started and I take my grandkids to school every morning.  And every morning we go through a litany of questions and answers…who created you.. God….who is with you at all times, loving you guiding you, streaming every good thing toward you….God.  Then we do a few ‘I Am’ statements.

I was thinking about that process we go through as I was beginning my meditation.  I was thinking, too, about a friend who is going through a difficult scary time.  And I was noticing how we all tend to “go it alone”.  Sure we pray……we beg for God to decide to heal us.  At least that was my image.  When I was little, in church one day, the minister, during his sermon, said that God might ask us to go live on a desert island.  And right then, the image popped into my head of me alone without my mom and dad.  And I right away started hoping God wouldn’t notice me.  Hoping he wouldn’t single me out and choose me to move, make me live all alone without my family.

But now, over the years, I realized I’ve kept that image subconsciously in my mind.  Kept   thinking of God from the perspective of a six year old, a little bit leery…..a little afraid of him.

The truth, as I know it now is that God loves me and I can trust God.  And he’s given me the law of attraction which proves he loves me.   He is streaming well-being toward me at all times.  Abundance in every area of my life.  But he won’t impose this abundance on me.   I must connect with it….with him.  When I’m in sync with God when I’m thinking the thoughts of God I’m aligned.  I can receive.  How do I sync up.  Meditation….appreciation.  Clearing my mind of all thought for 15 to 20 minutes and allow God to speak to me.  Then I begin my day and I can tell how I’m doing by how I feel.  Am I feeling grumpy?  I’ve lost my connection.  No, problem.  God’s still streaming well-being.  I can hook up again.  It’s all there.  He’s ALWAYS there.  And Law of Attraction is how I can tell.  I can tell if I’m hooked up by how I feel and what I’m thinking.

So, the question is:  why wouldn’t everyone take a few minutes in the morning to hook up?   Are you a little leery, a little afraid?  Do you think you’re not worthy?  Whatever the reason that’s holding you apart from God.  It’s also holding you apart from living in your power.  Living your best most abundant life, NOW.  All the power is there.  All the love, all the guidance from divine source.

My deepest desire is that my grandkids can learn this way earlier than I did.   That they can realize they don’t have to “go it alone”.  That God is always there and that the power to live a happy successful life lies through our connection to God.

Have a wonderful day my friends and start…..ATTRACTING MAGIC.

Two ends of every stick

A happy welcome to you my friends.  There’s a video on facebook that I love.  The one about the old Indian telling his grandson there are two wolves at war within each one of us.

There is an evil wolf and he is anger, regret, greed, guilt, lies…….

And there is a good wolf….joy, peace, love, kindness…..

The grandson asks, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Indian’s response, “The one you feed.”

I love that video.  it’s so true, isn’t it.  There’s another analogy, that further emphasizes this point.  Imagine every situation, relationship, encounter as if it were a stick with two ends; a good end and a bad end.  Now inherent in each situation, relationship, encounter, there are some good things about it and there are some bad things about it.

Today, let’s resolve together to pick up the good end of the stick….feed the good wolf.  Choose happy and start…..ATTRACTING MAGIC.



Welcome. I’m feeling especially enthusiastic this morning.  So I want to extend to all my fellows travelers on this life journey, a vibrational hug and high five and thumbs up for caring so much about how you feel.  For realizing that you can feel better and you can contribute to the well-being of those you love and the world in general.  You are great.  You are loved beyond your ability to comprehend.  Doesn’t that make you feel wonderful?

I’m inspired to write thes words.  My purpose in life is to shine goodness on the world and thereby expanding it.  To seek out the goodness in each person and each situation and by giving my attention to it… will expand.

Wow.  Think of it.  If each of one of us does that….that simple thing.  What would the world be like?  I’ve heard it said that one person aligned with God is more powerful than a million that aren’t.  Mother Theresa said that she would never join an anti-war movement.  She would only join a peace movement.  Find something that you like, something you resonant with and support it and through your attention to it, it will expand.

Find a candiate that you like and get behind him/her.  Don’t waste your time and more importantly your creative power railing against someone you don’t.  Make a list of ten positive aspects about your husband, your child, your neighbor, your govenment.  Focus on those ten and you will cause them to grow.  We have the power to create the world that we want.  Look for the good that is already there….focus and start……ATTRACTING MAGIC.


This is a real quickie but I couldn’t wait to share it.  I think it will help you throughout the day.  I was listening to Joel Osteen and he had a whole sermon on laughter.  He talked for a half an hour about how laughter was so good for you, not just improving your mood but also your health.

I was driving in my car feeling a little down.  There was nothing funny going on, at all.  I couldn’t think of one humorous incident that might help me  conjure up a chuckle, especially in my present frame of mind.   I thought, what the heck,  I’ll try it, anyway.  I burst out with a few fake sounding ha…ha….ha’s.  And instantly, I noticed a rise in my mood.

So what do you know, he’s right.  Laughter, even fake laughter can raise your mood.  I invite you to try it.  I’m fake laughing all over the place.  Join me, and start…..ATTRACTING MAGIC.

Writing the script for your life

I was listening to a youtube video by Abraham HIcks this morning, “Define what you want to be and stay in character”.  You”ll find I love Abraham Hicks.

The basic concept was looking at your life as though it is a play that you’re writing on a moment to moment basis.  You are the main character and all the other characters play off you according to the vibration you choose.  Remember, thoughts have vibrations and people are meeting you on that vibrational level.  What you give out you get, whether you like it or not.  It’s like tuning your radio to 100.3 and expecting to hear the music on 98.6.

So back to the play analogy. You get to decide…are you the prosperous person….are you the revered and respected person?  Or are you inadequate, uncertain?  Even asking myself those questions, gave me a thrill.  Could it be true…could I really be all that I want to be.  Even the thought made me square my shoulders and stand a little taller.

Don’t worry about how others will respond.  The minute you try to get into someone else’s head you lose your point of attraction. In fact,  I’ve discovered recently that whenever I’m thinking about someone else, it’s often in a worrisome mindset and it knocks me completely out of my positive vib.  You can’t get sad enough to make someone else happy…sick enough to make them well…or poor enough to make them rich.  Trust in God.  He’s taking care of them.

So back to writing the script of your life.  Define who you are and stay in character.  And let the universe begin showing you evidence of this new persona.  The more you believe it the more evidence will be revealed.  The law of attraction. It’s a beautiful way to live.  Full of fun and endless possibilities.  But don’t forget to meditate.  Connect to God.  Therein lies the power.  It’s no fun to go it alone and life is supposed to be fun.

So start writing the new improved script of your life. and start…..ATTRACTING MAGIC!!!

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